Random Musings

[mijan]

PRIMARY:  Less than one week go to now.  YAY!  I have purchased feminine protection for the LAST TIME EVAR (unless I pick some up for Trophy Wife).  Do you know how liberating that feels?  But more to the point, I won't have to delete one or two days every cycle from my calendar due to severe bleeding and pain that disrupts my life.  The cyst will be gone, too, of course.  Eighteen years of on-and-off torment will be over.  Not nervous - just relieved at this point.

SECONDARY:  My wife has misplaced her wedding ring.  Currently, she's wearing my wedding ring on her necklace and wearing the rainbow gemstone ring I gave her on her left ring finger.  I'm wearing my grandfather's old signet ring that I inherited on my ring finger so it's not naked.  (I'm really fond of that ring, actually, and I'm sad that the only finger it fits is my left ring finger - my right ring finger is significantly larger at the knuckle, so it's an excuse to wear it.)  HOWEVER, that got me thinking of something I've been considering for a while.  I've thought about getting a wedding-band tattoo on my left ring finger.  Cheesy, perhaps (although I've got a design in mind), but I like the idea of having something that nobody can remove from me.  I'll have to take off my wedding band on Monday when I go in for surgery.  If I have a wedding band tattoo, they can't remove it.  My Trophy Wife supports this idea.  I would never pressure her to get one - this is what I'm considering for myself.  What do you folks think?

TERTIARY: I've broken past my snippet of writer's block, and I'm writing the last few scenes of my Star Trek Big Bang fic.  This fic is rather overwhelming and huge, and I'm just hoping it works out the way I want it to.  I shouldn't be nervous, but you know me - I am.  I  hope people will like it.

QUATERNARY:  Really sick and tired of having religion thrown at me randomly, as if I should just simply accept it.  And it's always Christianity I'm being force-fed.  Random co-workers (not in my department - other departments), random folks around and about, businesses,   Why, people?  And how shall I respond?  Shall I respect this obnoxious, in-your-face, you-must-agree attitude from people, or shall I fire back?  Shall I tell them that it's not healthy for adults to cling to fairy tales?  Shall I cluck my tongue and shake my head sadly because they haven't converted to (X) other religion?  Shall I try to tell them of the joy of being a Buddhist, Muslim, Hindu, or Pastafarian?  Really, I can't just keep going along with this.  I need a fair game plan of how I shall respond to future forceful intrusions of other people's religion on my life.

Comments

[xdaemon.livejournal.com]

Two days later, my brother-in-law goes under the knife for what is, if not the same surgery, awfully damn close. Adding you to the mental list to think good thoughts at for a quick and painless recovery.

[mijan.livejournal.com]

Your brother-in-law is getting a hysterectomy and having an ovarian cyst removed? That's got to be a medical first.

[xdaemon.livejournal.com]

Biologically female, identifies male.

[mijan.livejournal.com]

Aaaah! Brilliant. In that case, he and I are indeed in a very similar position at the moment. My apologies for making assumptions - I'm gender-queer and even *I* get stuck in the cisgendered mindset and linguistics when talking about medical issues. (I swear, every hysterectomy information website is decked out in girly stuff.) Anyway, sorry for the misunderstanding. (I'd actually wondered if you'd mistyped "mother-in-law" by mistake.)

Wish him luck for me.

[xdaemon.livejournal.com]

I actually debated the terminology to use, as the other choice we generally fall back to is "sibling-in-law" as it points out that the usual terminology doesn't quite fit, but it's just so clumsy. Also didn't know if you'd remember that it had come up at the end of Arisia this year as you were bribing me with bourbon.

Luck _all around_.

[mijan.livejournal.com]

Sadly, Arisia last year was the start of when I was getting really sick, and my memory was spotty for several months. I'm sorry I've forgotten. But I'll have more bourbon this year at Arisia, and if you find me, I shall share again!

And the terminology is quite right. Granted, I prefer male pronouns myself, but my wife gets upset if people call me her husband because it messes with her self-identity, and I'm perfectly good with that. I've just always gone with "spouse" myself, but that's partially due to my French heritage. The word translates to "spouse" for both genders (even though there's a masculine and feminine version of the noun), not different words for husband and wife.

Okay, I'm rambling. That's the drugs talking. LOL.

Either way, here's go good outcomes for all of us next week!

[dulcinbradbury.livejournal.com]

Hysterectomy & chest reconstruction.

[mijan.livejournal.com]

I'm highly jealous of the top surgery. I've wanted to do that for years. (At least I'm small enough that binders work very well.) I hope it goes well!