Random Musings

[mijan]

PRIMARY:  Less than one week go to now.  YAY!  I have purchased feminine protection for the LAST TIME EVAR (unless I pick some up for Trophy Wife).  Do you know how liberating that feels?  But more to the point, I won't have to delete one or two days every cycle from my calendar due to severe bleeding and pain that disrupts my life.  The cyst will be gone, too, of course.  Eighteen years of on-and-off torment will be over.  Not nervous - just relieved at this point.

SECONDARY:  My wife has misplaced her wedding ring.  Currently, she's wearing my wedding ring on her necklace and wearing the rainbow gemstone ring I gave her on her left ring finger.  I'm wearing my grandfather's old signet ring that I inherited on my ring finger so it's not naked.  (I'm really fond of that ring, actually, and I'm sad that the only finger it fits is my left ring finger - my right ring finger is significantly larger at the knuckle, so it's an excuse to wear it.)  HOWEVER, that got me thinking of something I've been considering for a while.  I've thought about getting a wedding-band tattoo on my left ring finger.  Cheesy, perhaps (although I've got a design in mind), but I like the idea of having something that nobody can remove from me.  I'll have to take off my wedding band on Monday when I go in for surgery.  If I have a wedding band tattoo, they can't remove it.  My Trophy Wife supports this idea.  I would never pressure her to get one - this is what I'm considering for myself.  What do you folks think?

TERTIARY: I've broken past my snippet of writer's block, and I'm writing the last few scenes of my Star Trek Big Bang fic.  This fic is rather overwhelming and huge, and I'm just hoping it works out the way I want it to.  I shouldn't be nervous, but you know me - I am.  I  hope people will like it.

QUATERNARY:  Really sick and tired of having religion thrown at me randomly, as if I should just simply accept it.  And it's always Christianity I'm being force-fed.  Random co-workers (not in my department - other departments), random folks around and about, businesses,   Why, people?  And how shall I respond?  Shall I respect this obnoxious, in-your-face, you-must-agree attitude from people, or shall I fire back?  Shall I tell them that it's not healthy for adults to cling to fairy tales?  Shall I cluck my tongue and shake my head sadly because they haven't converted to (X) other religion?  Shall I try to tell them of the joy of being a Buddhist, Muslim, Hindu, or Pastafarian?  Really, I can't just keep going along with this.  I need a fair game plan of how I shall respond to future forceful intrusions of other people's religion on my life.

Comments

[jantra.livejournal.com]

2nd: Suggestion: you can get a ring gently enlarged at a proper jewelry store so you could fit it over your knuckle. Also, while I heavily support the wedding band tattoo, I heard it hurts like nothing else in this world because it's right on the bone on a sensitive place.

[vixys.livejournal.com]

The wedding-ring tattoo thing sounds adorable, and I'm sure to you, pain is nothing (or something :D) - and wow, I am so excited for your surgery! *flaily* *hugs*

Your STBB fic is amazing, bb, and whatever way you write the last few scenes, with my advice or not, they'll be just as fantastic. So don't worry - just rock on, and be awesome. (And send me the finished product, y/y? :D)

Ah, religion. My strategy to being forcefed religion is to just ignore it - everyone needs a comfort blanket of some sorts, be it a person, concept, or favourite book, and if someone wants to put their faith in one god or a pantheon, that's up to them. (This is my way of saying that telling "them it's not healthy for adults to cling to fairy tales" is a bad idea, yo. :D) It's obnoxious, yes, but they don't mean any harm. So, live and let live. And ignore. Rant about it here; leave it in RL.

But yes. :D *hearts*

[auroraceleste.livejournal.com]

What do you folks think?

Honestly? I think it sounds like something you shouldn't be asking about. The only person that should matter to is Jen. You two talk it over and then figure out what YOU wanna do and screw everyone else and what they think.

[pinkfinity.livejournal.com]

IMHO, the tattoo idea is lovely but check with your doctor to make sure it wont cause issues when you go into the surgery - when I had my gall bladder out there was a question on the checklist asking if I had had any tattoos ornpiercings in the prior 30days - not sure why, but better to ask beforehand than have an issue then.

[gmonkey42.livejournal.com]

I think the wedding band tattoo is a cool idea.

I usually just ignore the religion crap. But it doesn't happen to me very often, I can see how it would be harder to ignore if it happened a lot.

[xdaemon.livejournal.com]

Two days later, my brother-in-law goes under the knife for what is, if not the same surgery, awfully damn close. Adding you to the mental list to think good thoughts at for a quick and painless recovery.

[featherynscale.livejournal.com]

4iery: I respond in keeping with the nature of the interaction. If it's a blessing offered, I return a blessing. If it's religious information being passed on as fact, I return facts. If it's asshattery, I begin by returning an assertion that whatever asshattery it is only applies to people of the asshat's religion, and therefore not to me. Sometimes I get assier from there, but I try not to. If it's just "I love Jesus!", then they get "I'm awfully fond of Thoth" or similar. A non sequitur for a non sequitur.

TRUFAX (related): In my heavily-Christian office, I have a statue of Ganesha (the agency motto is about opening doors, so he seems appropriate). I also wear an ankh almost every day. I behave as if these are normal things to do, because, of course, they are. Nobody has ever yet so much as looked at me cross-ways about it. My strategy for dealing with privilege is simply to behave as if I have it, and let people admit that they think they're better or more deserving than me if they want to call me out on it. Hardly anyone ever does.

[annulvapore.livejournal.com]

I wear my pentacle; it usually scares the zealots away, which is funny, as I would think they would try harder to "save" me as a result.

[sgt-majorette.livejournal.com]

Still more or less Roman Catholic after all these years, and I don't go out much anymore, but when I did, and I felt contrary, I simply wore a headscarf.

I generally have my head covered anyway, as I worship at the shrine of Saint Can't-Be-Bothered-With-This-Wild-Mess-On-My-Head-EVERY-Damn-Morning.

[liamgolucky.livejournal.com]

OH TATTOO. I have a friend who got one there though and she said it hurt like all hell and back, and then mentioned that it was really annoying to take care of because its on your finger. Like you cant scratch tattoos or it'll mess up the ink. Also, she got in when she was 16 and shes now 32 and shes had to get it redone a couple of times because it fades easily. Just to share my random story. :)
BUT IM TOTALLY FOR IT.

When people ask me how I feel about religion I just give them a blank look until they walk away. Works for me. :)

ALSO, YAY NO MORE FEMININE PRODUCTS! (this makes me hate you a tad because flo is due within the next two days. -.-. lucky bastard.)

[seneska.livejournal.com]

Firstly, I'm quite jealous of you right now *groans in pain*. Good luck!

Secondly, it sounds like a really nice idea, a truly permanent gesture. There may be an issue with it if you get it done just before surgery though. I've heard they ask about any possible/likely sources of recent infection.

Quaternally, since the Pope visited the city last week nothing else has been all over our media. I am quite sympathetic. At least working in a science building at uni means I avoided the worst of the insanity. There was even a massive fire on the same day and it got barely any news coverage at all. You could try telling them you practise voodoo and see if that shuts them up...

[sphynxle.livejournal.com]

Keeping you in thoughts :D I know the surgery will go awesome, and I have to admit I'm jealous. I don't plan to use the things, why do I have to be stuck with them >.>

People will love your story. I assure you of this.

I'm to the point where I just ignore it. It's very, very hard, but at the same time, giving them things like "it's unhealthy to cling to fairy tales" just adds fuel to the fire. I find that the ones who don't seem to get the major "accept it!" things are the ones who are very, very open about their religion. That way, they know you have one and you're not just . . . I dunno, "lost".

[vector-nyu.livejournal.com]

Congrats on surgery!

I'm sorry about the religion thing...I'm a christian myself, but I would never force it on anybody...but then again I was raised mormon so I know all too well about pushy missionary types. I've come to accept that there are many paths to god/goodness...too bad those pushy christians can't :/

[eldritchhorrors.livejournal.com]

You can get a silicone ring subdermally implanted on your ring finger. It is subtle, just a raised ring around the base of the finger, but it can't be removed.



Kind of like this, except that it is 2 smaller u-shaped pieces inserted around the finger.

[abigail89.livejournal.com]

I've mulled over the idea of a ring tat. A friend of mine has one, and I like it. But I like my ring and it matches my spouse's so for the moment I'm good.

If your grandfather's ring cannot be enlarged, you could ask about having the signet set in a new ring.

YAY for surgery. I finally threw out all my feminine products last year. I have no idea why I was hanging onto the stuff. I'm over that for good.

*SIGH* Hell, I AM a Christian and I get this shit thrown at me all the time. I tell people I've cast the fate of my soul to the Presbyterians, and there's nothing they can say/do/give me to read that will change my mind, so GO AWAY. Yeah, I've told doorknockers to GO AWAY.

You could always say I've cast the fate of my soul to the universe and I'm pretty sure God/the Great Spirit's got me covered. :D

[tgrcats-tail.livejournal.com]

While it is not what you want to hear right now, and no one else is going to say it:
IF things go totally fubar, removing a ring tattoo is even more painful than getting it in the first place. I say it because I know a gal who got one, very nice celtic knots, and after _20 years_ things went horridly bad...
There, that said, I know you will make the decision right for you based on all relevant information.
WHOOT for finally freedom from pain, cyst, and the need for fem protection! As for the religion.. sorry I have no great comebacks either. I just smile and shake my head and move away (assuming that is possible)